Sex Talk Wednesday - Magic Numbers

So what is a magic number? A magic number is THE number. YOUR number. The number of people of the opposite sex that you have had cock-in-pussy sexual intercourse with.

It has to be worded that way because otherwise there are too many possibilities for misinterpretation. You know...those times when you might have dabbled a bit with someone of the same sex...that would not be added to your magic number. Or the times when you may have given the entire football team blow jobs but never even removed your panties...that would not be added to your magic number.

There comes a time in a relationship when that dreadful question is asked. "How many people before me have you slept with?" And that's when you have to decide (quickly) how you are going to answer. Because is there really a good number that you can give?

If your number is really small, you run the chance of either a. looking like a liar or b. looking like a prude. Neither one of those is particularly good.

Or, if your number is really large then you run the chance of either a. looking like a liar (to impress) or b. looking like a slut. Again, neither of which is particularly good.

So how do you know when to be absolutely honest and when to fudge the numbers? Well, if you're truly with the right person, then your magic number shouldn't make a difference either way. That person is in it with you for the long haul and he/she is (hopefully) your last stop, so whoever was before him/her is in the past and a distant memory, now. Right?

It really all depends on your age and the amount of time that has gone by since your very first sexual experience and now. For example, if your magic number is 30 and your first sexual experience was when you were 15 and you are now 75, that's really not that high of a number at all. But if your magic number is 30 and your first sexual experience was when you were 15 and you are now 16, that's a completely different scenario. Because the 75 year old, chances are will probably not have too many more different experiences to add to that number. Whereas the 16 year old will probably more than likely have at LEAST a few more notches to add to his/her belt.

And when determining your number, you have to also think about if you really want to include those one night stands (however many there may be) or the encounters you'd really rather not even remember...whether you remember them at all or not. Like that time you de-virginized the 17-year-old and were almost caught by the parents walking in so the sex lasted less than 5 minutes. Would that count? Or how about the time when you were handcuffed to the bed and you had absolutely no intention of having sex with this person but being in that position, and that person mounting you, you end up having sex...be it against your will or not...would THAT count?

I think it's best to be absolutely honest with that person because that shows that you are not ashamed of anything you have done or anyone you have been with. Life is too short to have any regrets, ya know? And one of my favorite sayings (and I'm sorry, I don't remember where it came from or else I would give credit where credit is due) is "Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted." I think it's best to live by those words so that you are out there experiencing everything (at least once, anyway - more than that if you enjoy it) and making sure that you don't go thru life wishing you would have done it differently.

So, that said, what do you think is a "good" range to be in so that you are somewhere between being the prude and the slut? Or is either of those actually a turn on?

Do the guys want the girls who have only been with one other before them? Or are they wanting the girl who has had enough of the variety that she knows what she's doing and has a better idea of what the guy will like?

And, girls, would you prefer the guy that you will be able to mold because he won't know anyone else's touch but yours? Or would you prefer the guy who has been with enough girls that he knows his way around your body and what will make you tremble at the drop of a hat?

I, myself, would prefer the guy in the middle range. The one who has been with more than a couple before me, but a lot less than this guy.

I've been with a couple of guys in my time that were known to be "players" and found that one of them was only interested in his "routine" (God forbid we would do something "out of order") and the other was only interested in what he looked like in the mirror as we were having sex.

No, thank you. I would prefer a guy to be someone who...oh, I don't know...actually WANTS to be having sex with me. Someone who isn't either so into himself that he can't unglue his eyes from the mirror or who isn't concentrating so hard to keep from breaking up his routine that when I nibble on his neck and tousle his hair he gets frustrated because he has now lost track of what action needs to happen next.

And on the other end of the spectrum, I've been someone's first twice now and that's a very powerful thing to be. There is a lot of responsibility that goes with being someone's first. (First ANY new sexual experience, by the way. Doesn't have to just be straight cock/pussy intercourse.) I think your first should be with someone you are in love with and that second person I was with where I was his first, I wasn't in love with him so that wasn't fair to him.

So where am I going with all of this? Everyone has his or her own personal range of acceptable magic numbers and there really is no right or wrong. As with life in general, everything is subject to interpretation. So whatever your number is, be proud of it because it is part of what makes you, you. However, if it's a four-digit number like the guy above has, then you'd better be DAMNED good at what you're doing to be able to get away with just shouting off the rooftops what it is.

And, remember, all those times when you had the gang bangs that consisted of giving head but nothing else happened....thankfully, it doesn't count towards your magic number.

So what is MY magic number, you ask? Let's just say it's somewhere between 10 and 50 and we'll leave it at that. ;)

Vixy :]